Does Your Sense Of Self Serve You?

Recently I was thinking about how people identify with certain characteristics within themselves.

Characteristics of current or past behavior often become how we identify ourselves. That is ok if we are happy with those characteristics. But what happens when we want to change something about our lifestyle? Identifying with who we know ourselves to be can impede our ability to change, or even attempt to change.. Things that come to mind are whether or not someone is a “workout person” or someone who preps their meals for the week. 

I think about this a lot because I hear it so often. People constantly put up barriers to their success because the way forward does not support their current idea of who they are or what they are capable of. Often someone’s understanding of themselves limits their attempts at change.

People always want a quick fix. The magic pill. 24 hour cleanse. The easy way out. I suppose this is because the risk is less than the possible reward?

If the quick fix doesn’t work, no worries. It only cost $9.95. But if it does work…AMAZING. They’ve preserved their sense of self. They didn’t have to change who they claim to be or who they think they are to change their life. True vindication…but is it?

As we know. The quick fixes never work. Yet we move on, only to be captivated by the next one. 

I guess what I’m getting at here is that success as a principle, especially with health and fitness, is incredibly simple. The answers to the test are available, open book style. 

If you prep your meals, and workout regularly you will succeed.

So why is it so hard?

I think I know why. It has to do with your sense of self. If you keep telling yourself things like:

“I don’t have time”

“I’m so busy”

“My kids come first”

“I work too late” 

“I don’t have any equipment”

“I don’t like to cook”

then you’re going to be right. These statements reinforce the messages you are telling yourself about they type of person you are and keep you stuck in the cycle of inaction. Keep telling yourself these things, and they will become and remain true. 

All of the information that you will ever need to be successful is available to you either online, with someone you know, or already in your own head. Your success is dependent upon what information you act on. If you continue to feed into the false narrative that  you are not a fitness person or you are not a food prep person, then you won’t be. But if you make the conscious decision to accept small changes and small victories, if you focus on the problems of today and right now, you will become whatever you want. 

The things you tell yourself when no one is around are important. The things you do and do not do when no one is around, are important. 

Choose to be better today. Choose to become what you want. Stop listening to the excuses your brain makes up in your head. They will not go away. It will not stop. But neither will life. No one is waiting for you to change. You are the only one who has to live with your choices. 

Choose better. Choose positive action